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Monday, October 22, 2012

Parenting can be very challenging. Sometimes I think it is much easy if I can just baby sit my kids instead of parenting them. Watching over them to make sure they are safe, well feed and grow is easy but for us parents it’s more than that God entrusts us to do for our children.

Esrene is into her tantrum throwing stage now – the miserable 3! She wants her way, wants her say. A “no” from us most of the time will make her have her melt down moment. It’s quite challenging and tiring for us to deal with her.

Lately we were introduced by a close friend to the parenting video and book by Danny Silk called “Loving your kids on purpose”. It is a totally different approach from what we always hear, know or learn all these while. It is rather an interesting concept based on the relationship with the kids and the free choice rather than controlling. So we thought it’s not bad to try on the approach.

One day while Esrene was playing with our friend’s daughter in our house and having cheese as snack, she had her melt down moment again just because she accidently tear off the piece of cheese she was about to eat. She said it is torn, refused to eat that and want a new one! We told her it is ok to eat the torn cheese and it will still taste as yummy as the complete piece but no she started to throw her tantrum, crying and screaming her head off. After a few attempts to talk to her, daddy was frustrated and brought her into her room for time out. Yet she didn’t give up, screamed and cried in her room. So I decided to try on Danny Silk’s approach. I walked into her room, trying to remain calm and put up a smile at the same time. Then I squad down and told her “Hey darling, crying and whining is no fun at all. Everyone is having fun outside. When you think you are fun enough to play outside, you can come out and join us. If not it is ok for Esrene to stay in the room”. After I gave her a pet at her head, I walked out. Less than 1 minute, she stopped all her crying and whining, walked out getting ready to play again. I reminded me “Hey Esrene, remember, be fun ok?”. She nodded. Phew!! What a relieve!!! Finally I manage to make my melt down girl to stop her tantrum throwing without much effort and anger involved! But I thought I could have tried the approached when she started to fuss about her cheese…anyway it’s a good start.



My 2nd attempt on the approach:

One night, Esrene was playing up refused to brush her teeth before going to bed. I approached her with the smile and ask her calmly “Esrene, do you know what will happen if we do not brush our teeth?”. She looked at me with a puzzled look. I continued “Without brushing, our teeth will drop off one by one, and at the end we have no more teeth to eat anything. We can’t eat lollies, can’t eat chippy, can’t eat cakes, nothing we can eat except drinking milk like a baby!”. Then I walked off to do my thing.

After 5-10min, I walked back to Esrene and asked calmly “So Esrene, have you decide whether you want your teeth or no teeth?”.

She shouted “I want my teeth!!!”.

Then I asked “What do you think you should do if you want to keep your teeth?”.

This time she said excitedly “Esrene wana go brush teeth now mummy!!” and off to the bathroom she went to get the toothbrush for me to help her brushing her teeth.

I have to admit, that’s the most joyful moment in my whole parenting all these while!!!! I managed to not only guide my tantrum throwing daughter to make a correct choice herself happily without having to raise my voice, cause any crying or tears from her side, but I also manage to teach her a short lesson of the reason we want to brush teeth Smile It’s a sense of victory to me! Suddenly I see the fun of parenting!!!! I am glad I am able to start applying what I’ve learned and praying that God will give me more creative ideas to parenting my child in a peaceful way without having to lose my temper and raise my voice.


Mummy Siu

The growing girls

Friday, October 12, 2012

Hi everyone, we have been keeping mummy really busy that there’s not much time leave for her to update the blog. It has been a while since you see our update!!

I am Rennice, I am 17 months now. Daddy mummy say I am a cheerful, adorable but ever cheeky girl as well!

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I always put up a joyful, cheeky smiley face whenever I go that capture everyone’s heart. This is how I get attention from others!!

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I love music, whenever I hear any music playing I will start dancing. I also love to do what “jie jie” (big sister) does, imitate her as well as want to play the same toys she is playing, that irritates her a lot.

Daddy mummy say I am a clown in our family because I love to do funny face and funny action to make them laugh, then I will laugh together with them. Jie Jie always say “mei mei is a funny gal!!”.

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Even though I am still very young, I already know how to ask mummy to “hair hair” (tie hair) for me and dress me up with princess tutu just like jie jie. After I am being dress up I will show off to jie jie and start shaking my body and do my dance.


I like to be a little helper as well. Every morning I will put back my own sleeping bag back to my cot. When I am back from “walkies” or car ride, I will take off my shoes, open the shoes rack and trying to put back my shoes and even “jie jie”s shoes back into the rack. Most of the time I need help from mummy or daddy as I barely can reach the shoes rack.


However, if daddy mummy scolded me I will cry so badly as if I am being badly punished and I will refuse to look at them but cry for a long time with big tears rolling down my cheek!!

Even though I am still small, I already know how to throw tantrum!! I will swing my hands hard, frown and show my angry face! Daddy said I look cute at times when I did that.

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I’m the big sister Esrene. I’m a 3 years old big girl now. I’m very talkative at home now but when I am in the public or at the childcare I refused to talk at all. I told mummy I’m “shy”. I’m into my “difficult stage” – the tantrum throwing stage as daddy mummy said. I want my way, from choosing clothes, way to do thing to food I want to eat. If I can’t get what I want I will throw tantrum and have my melt down moment. So a lot of time I will be sent by daddy/mummy to the time out corner.


Apart from that, I am very talkative now. I can non stop talking at home and instructed “mei mei” to do things.


Like most of the 3-4 years old girls, I am obsessive with princesses. I love to dress like princesses that’s why I am spoilt by mummy with some princesses dress, tutu, hair accessories etc. However, I do not take care of my stuffs and like to tear or spoilt them so a lot of time I didn’t get to wear all these pretty things.



I still love puzzle and already easily conquered up to 70 pieces of puzzle. Mummy said she might want to try me on 100 pieces puzzle soon.

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I am very particular with certain things now.

I need to make sure my blanket is properly laid on my bed and tuck nicely when I am sleeping. I will wake up crying if I realise my blanket is messy!

I don’t like to walk on the grass bare foot as well. I will complaint and curl up my toes trying to walk on the grass.

My utensils need to be in the same colour – same colour of bowl, plate, fork and spoon.


I know how to help mummy hung up clothes for drying and help her to take the clothes down from the dying rack but it all depends on my mood. I will only help her when I am in my mood of helping.


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We are each other’s best playmate for now. Most of the time we will play quite rough until one of us get hurts and start crying. There’s good time and bad time for us. We can be very loving for one minute playing happily with each other but the next minute we will fight for toys and start crying and screaming.



Mummy said this is called love hate relationship.

Mummy daddy hope that we will grow up to be each other’s best friend.